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violations wills trusts estate planning probate personal representatives elder law powers attorney living wills open technical issues linkback thread tools rate thread display modes roseblossom junior member date oct posts right mediation recommendation name state law ex terrible marriage ended august cheated pretty separated extremely angry split august moved respective places working hours week worked full time good pay barely getting dollar minimum wage told keep kids weekends afford child care ended going school march received children time laid work require child care care i way july went visit family north carolina supposed stay month ex calls tell stay extra month mid august house supposed live returned california available anymore stayed ex said good stay wanted kids months switch couple months starts telling wants move reno nevada family say says wants full custody kids tell working plan lied telling kids california file custody messages couldnt trust file ex parte hearing judge barely speak said said family members specifically said orders kids returned forthwith visitation kids week ex gets work weekends essentially making exes babysitter unacceptable told mediator phone talked issues brought things family members mediator trying say kids need stay cali family community relations kids years old got mail today recommended full physical custody given dad joint legal seeing week month cali having weeks months dont think right dad got oct lives kids kids bedroom appt room daughter luke son shared room cousin week older fair with birth august march son daughter repeatedly came brusies scratches dad supposed visit usually gave weekend time play soccer games name state law sponsored hisbabygirl senior member date sep location arizona posts quote originally posted roseblossom name state law ex terrible marriage ended august cheated pretty separated extremely angry split august moved respective places working hours week worked full time good pay barely getting dollar minimum wage told keep kids weekends afford child care ended going school march received children time laid work require child care care i way july went visit family north carolina supposed stay month ex calls tell stay extra month mid august house supposed live returned california available anymore stayed ex said good stay wanted kids months switch couple months starts telling wants move reno nevada family say says wants full custody kids tell working plan lied telling kids california file custody messages couldnt trust file ex parte hearing judge barely speak said said family members specifically said orders kids returned forthwith visitation kids week ex gets work weekends essentially making exes babysitter unacceptable told mediator phone talked issues brought things family members mediator trying say kids need stay cali family community relations kids years old got mail today recommended full physical custody given dad joint legal seeing week month cali having weeks months dont think right dad got oct lives kids kids bedroom appt room daughter luke son shared room cousin week older fair with birth august march son daughter repeatedly came brusies scratches dad supposed visit usually gave weekend time play soccer games name state law legal question hisbabygirl court orders means adults control give child parents time read court order keep mind child understand quick send fetch child groucho marx family law attorney roseblossom junior member date oct posts lol sorry question recommend trying point judge court hearing oct whats best interest children life financial prospects california speak back welfare foodstamps trying live stable environment judge see look just kids lived getting keep ppl cali opinion examples ive seen family law attorney ohiogal senior member date dec location ohio posts quote originally posted roseblossom question recommend trying point judge court hearing oct whats best interest children life financial prospects california speak back welfare foodstamps trying live stable environment judge see look just kids lived getting keep ppl cali opinion examples ive seen children california thought appropriate take children country purportedly vacation just stay looks fishy understandable court believe story best interests children dad going gripe having children weekends day week quote orders kids returned forthwith visitation kids week ex gets work weekends essentially making exes babysitter seriously shows bitterness going full time mom children daily want complain think babysitter lady children parent best interest children see pretty daily wanted throw hissy parents remember things love kids hate ex soon ex children relationship parent death children determine type nursing stated taken giving legal advice forming attorney client relationship licensed practice law ohio guardian litem children cft highest rank approved verified moderators family law attorney michaca member date oct posts agree thoughts you clear want want easy life see kids see afford fly month week visit clear schedule mediator recommended based staying want relationship kids ismy advice complaining court system point judge complain time kids present situation or dad immediately dad picture question put mediator judge impossible position presume active role childs life talking scratches bruises part case just muddies waters confuses things really concerned time called cps handled route loan self show court apartment room house children sleep eat temp place just place come back court date pack life assert want active mother stay want shared visitation custody plan father caring children state mediator based recommendations based you stay judge please award shared plan papers submitted court house days meaning soon advance court date outlining couple reasonable visitation plans include dad trying oust bad mouth complain single person circumstances know may blowing hot air commitment children clear know court lot usually works greater lesser degree proactive show offer reasonable plans offer solutions show commitment show good opinion think may resolve visitation children court room moral judgement philosophical point view based want play active role childrens life simply mop things looking dad primary parent may harder harder pull joint family law attorney zephyr senior member date mar location funkytowwwwwn posts possible attorney family law attorney ohiogal senior member date dec location ohio posts pretty ask ncp wants parent happy seeing children day betting majority say regardless babysitting parent parents remember things love kids hate ex soon ex children relationship parent death children determine type nursing stated taken giving legal advice forming attorney client relationship licensed practice law ohio guardian litem children cft highest rank approved verified moderators family law attorney roseblossom junior member date oct posts okay ppl helping giving advice thankyou ppl just plain nasty twisting words purposes anyways write complained judge just stating opinion love kids parent just venting steam way visitation basically babysitter ex gets nights bedtime take care day work just situation work kids benefit different houses different routines day scratches call cps person knowledgeable start show knowing exactly avenues lived learned mistakes concerned trusted dad happened left son received bruises trying ready pack preoccupied taken pictures called cps know to going back financially way housing back welfare foodstamps burden social system crumbling understand visiting staying looks planning staying hit happens living grandmother going school program cali looking year wait list wait list thank god love kids dearly give deserve california crap jobs horrendous prices gasp know alot say good parent dare stay way better life court date wanted know look better having fs welfare family law attorney ohiogal senior member date dec location ohio posts quote ppl helping giving advice thankyou ppl just plain nasty twisting words purposes twisting words purposes just plain nasty quote anyways write complained judge just stating opinion wrote quote file ex parte hearing judge barely speak said said family members specifically said orders kids returned forthwith visitation kids week ex gets work weekends essentially making exes babysitter unacceptable told mediator phone unacceptable judge ordered complained mediator quote love kids parent just venting steam way visitation basically babysitter ex gets nights bedtime take care day work called parenting parents babysit children parent hours job daddy full time quote just situation work kids benefit different houses different routines day children adapted parents mature mommy going mature going whine mediator oh discussed issues meant complained fact judge ordered want babysit newsflash divorce happens parent gets full time children quote scratches call cps person knowledgeable start show knowing exactly avenues lived learned mistakes mistakes caused dad full custody consequences mistakes quote concerned trusted dad happened left son received bruises trying ready pack preoccupied taken pictures called cps know know child received bruises you bruises important stick dad shows pettiness bitterness quote going back financially way housing back welfare foodstamps burden social system crumbling oh called job work butt quote understand visiting staying looks planning staying packed quote hit happens living grandmother going school program school children stay california quote cali looking year wait list wait list thank god school quote love kids dearly give deserve california crap jobs horrendous prices best leave california education quote gasp know alot say good parent dare stay way better life nope better life father california education father quote court date wanted know look better having fs welfare want children remaining parents remember things love kids hate ex soon ex children relationship parent death children determine type nursing stated taken giving legal advice forming attorney client relationship licensed practice law ohio guardian litem children cft highest rank approved verified moderators family law attorney roseblossom junior member date oct posts isnt funny quote originally posted ohiogal twisting words purposes just plain nasty wrote was unacceptable judge ordered complained mediator it called parenting parents babysit children parent hours job daddy full time children adapted parents mature mommy going mature going whine mediator oh discussed issues meant complained fact judge ordered want babysit newsflash divorce happens parent gets full time children mistakes caused dad full custody consequences mistakes know child received bruises you bruises important stick dad shows pettiness bitterness oh called job work butt packed to school children stay california school best leave california education nope better life father california education father want children remaining funny comes looking advice hope positive receives catty negativity unhappy people looking put people just see mean communicating people good somewhat polite said great economy there wonderful system world right everybody employed great opportunities right women chose children person thought provide long stay mother darling wife anyways haha know lady alas experience education may work local mcdonalds spots left ppl putting applications unemployment rate roof children cali knew going hit child support omg decided wanted life lied repeatedly leave kids visitation essentially decided wanted fun extra tax money kids left dependents tax return got tires rims decked car main caretaker potty training making sure teeth brushed day didnt teaching abcs working year old son speech problem teaching lol dad work sons speech problem seen works professional making doctors appointments parent frustrating living single parent role main parent role kids love babysit kids went school soon got them movies park went went just didnt fracked visitation schedule judge ordered right lol said ohiolady werent whine mediator scheduling trying civil possible wasnt dad started talk crap marriage repeatedly tried say arent supposed talking kids decided lay hit table bro smokes weed hes kids mother present caretaker kids left kids soaking wet diapers negligible raising kids theyre fracked daughters age pregnant illegal men years old lol mediator audacity say family vital connection half illegals welfare system working fake socials haha person rooms kids working better life kids better life want fs whos shot put wants education giving youth kids abusive husband oh yeah trying nice thought mention extremely emotionally mentally occasionally physically abusive remind chose life kids side fracken court ordered california hitty place poor stay california mom pines dreams everynight cries everyday wont leg stand returns california thank positive helpful say family law attorney isis senior member date nov posts feel better family law attorney cyjeff senior member date sep posts sure really sunny today case agree youth need fountain smart family law attorney roseblossom junior member date oct posts quote originally posted cyjeff sure really sunny today thank wasnt enlighten agreed sure decided try negativity spoken grader getting reprimanded fellow senior member rest jump pack sharks agreed said details case family law attorney proserpina senior member date mar location weigh pie posts quote funny comes looking advice hope positive receives catty negativity unhappy people looking put people entire point forum quote bro smokes weed hes kids relevance quote mother present caretaker kids left kids soaking wet diaper quote negligible raising kids theyre fracked daughters age pregnant illegal men years old relevance quote lol mediator audacity say family vital connection half illegals welfare system working fake socials haha relevance love see proof quote oh yeah trying 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in march of and I received the children by this time I had been laid off from work and now did not require child care since I could care for them I had i this way until july when i went to visit my family in North Carolina and we were supposed to stay for a month then ex calls to tell me to stay an extra month and then in mid august i find out that the house where i was supposed to live in when i returned to california was not available to me anymore and I had nowhere to go so i stayed in NC ex said it would be good for me to stay there and he wanted to get the kids for two months and we could switch off every couple of months then he starts telling me he wants to move to Reno nevada to be with his gf's family I say no and then he says he wants full custody of the kids and I tell him I though we were working out a plan He even lied to me before this telling me when the kids were with him in california he would not file for custody when he already had i have this in text messages SO i couldnt trust him He file ex parte hearing and judge barely let me speak then she said I had said I had family members to help me in CA when i had specifically said I had NO one to help me and orders for kids to be returned forthwith to CA and visitation is I have kids during week until ex gets off work and I have weekends essentially making me exes babysitter This was unacceptable and I told the mediator over the phone we talked out our issues I brought up things on his family members which mediator was trying to say kids need to stay in Cali because of family and community relations the kids are and years old and then I got in the mail today that she recommended that full physical custody be given to dad and joint legal with me seeing them one week out of the month in Cali and having them for two weeks every three months I dont think this is right Dad got them on oct lives with the two kids his gf and her two kids in a two bedroom appt I had a room for my daughter and luke my son shared a room with his cousin who is one week older than him How is this fair They were with me and have been with me since birth until August and then from march ALso son and daughter repeatedly came home with brusies and scratches when they were with their dad and when he was supposed to visit them he usually wouldn't and even gave up his weekend time so he could play soccer games What is the name of your state only U S law Sponsored ad PM Hisbabygirl Senior Member Join Date Sep Location Arizona Posts Quote Originally Posted by RoseBlossom What is the name of your state only U S law CA and NC My ex and I had a terrible marriage which ended in August of I cheated on him though we were pretty much separated and I get that he is extremely angry at this We split in August and moved to respective places I was working only around hours a week and he worked full time with good pay while i was barely getting a dollar above minimum wage so I told him to keep the kids and i would have them on the weekends so that I could afford child care He ended up going to school in march of and I received the children by this time I had been laid off from work and now did not require child care since I could care for them I had i this way until july when i went to visit my family in North Carolina and we were supposed to stay for a month then ex calls to tell me to stay an extra month and then in mid august i find out that the house where i was supposed to live in when i returned to california was not available to me anymore and I had nowhere to go so i stayed in NC ex said it would be good for me to stay there and he wanted to get the kids for two months and we could switch off every couple of months then he starts telling me he wants to move to Reno nevada to be with his gf's family I say no and then he says he wants full custody of the kids and I tell him I though we were working out a plan He even lied to me before this telling me when the kids were with him in california he would not file for custody when he already had i have this in text messages SO i couldnt trust him He file ex parte hearing and judge barely let me speak then she said I had said I had family members to help me in CA when i had specifically said I had NO one to help me and orders for kids to be returned forthwith to CA and visitation is I have kids during week until ex gets off work and I have weekends essentially making me exes babysitter This was unacceptable and I told the mediator over the phone we talked out our issues I brought up things on his family members which mediator was trying to say kids need to stay in Cali because of family and community relations the kids are and years old and then I got in the mail today that she recommended that full physical custody be given to dad and joint legal with me seeing them one week out of the month in Cali and having them for two weeks every three months I dont think this is right Dad got them on oct lives with the two kids his gf and her two kids in a two bedroom appt I had a room for my daughter and luke my son shared a room with his cousin who is one week older than him How is this fair They were with me and have been with me since birth until August and then from march ALso son and daughter repeatedly came home with brusies and scratches when they were with their dad and when he was supposed to visit them he usually wouldn't and even gave up his weekend time so he could play soccer games What is the name of your state only U S law So what is the legal question Hisbabygirl Court orders are not made as a means for the adults to control one another They are made to give the child both parents Next time you read your court order keep that in mind A child of five could understand this Quick send someone to fetch a child of five Groucho Marx Find a Family Law Attorney PM RoseBlossom Junior Member Join Date Oct Posts lol sorry the question is what would you recommend in trying to get my point across to the judge have court hearing on th of oct that I am whats in the best interest of the children I have no life or financial prospects in california to speak of if i was to go back i would have to be on welfare and foodstamps and I'm trying to live in a stable environment here in NC Will the judge see that and what do they look for Just that the kids lived in CA before I'm getting that they like to keep ppl in Cali my opinion from examples ive seen Find a Family Law Attorney AM Ohiogal Senior Member Join Date Dec Location Ohio Posts Quote Originally Posted by RoseBlossom the question is what would you recommend in trying to get my point across to the judge have court hearing on th of oct that I am whats in the best interest of the children I have no life or financial prospects in california to speak of if i was to go back i would have to be on welfare and foodstamps and I'm trying to live in a stable environment here in NC Will the judge see that and what do they look for Just that the kids lived in CA before I'm getting that they like to keep ppl in Cali my opinion from examples ive seen You have your children in California You thought it appropriate to take your children across country purportedly on vacation and then just stay It looks fishy and understandable that a court will not believe your story How are you more in the best interests of the children than dad And you were going to gripe about having the children weekends and every day during the week Quote and orders for kids to be returned forthwith to CA and visitation is I have kids during week until ex gets off work and I have weekends essentially making me exes babysitter Seriously That shows your bitterness You were going to be a full time mom and have the children DAILY And you want to complain because of how you think that makes you a babysitter Lady these are YOUR children It makes you a PARENT That would have been in the best interest of the children to see both of you pretty much daily and you wanted to throw a hissy Parents should remember things Love your kids more than you hate your ex or soon to be ex when you have children the relationship with the other parent is until death your children determine what type of nursing home you end up in Nothing stated by me should be taken as giving you legal advice or forming an attorney client relationship Licensed to practice law in Ohio and a Guardian Ad Litem for children Also CFT Highest Rank approved and verified by the moderators Find a Family Law Attorney AM MichaCA Member Join Date Oct Posts I agree These are my thoughts on what I would do but I am not you You are not being clear what you want do you want the easy life in NC and not see your kids I don't see how you can afford to fly once a month for a week visit Actually I am not clear was the last schedule the mediator recommended based on you staying in NC or in CA IF you want the relationship with your kids this ismy advice Stop complaining to the court system at this point the judge When you complain you get less time with kids Don't present the situation as an either or its either me or the dad Stop that immediately YES dad WILL be in the picture the only question is are you So don't put a mediator or judge in that impossible position Presume BOTH of you will have an active role in childs life as it should be Stop talking about scratches and bruises as part of your case It just muddies the waters and confuses things If you were really concerned about it at the time you would have called CPS and handled it that route Get a loan get your self out to CA now so that when you show up in court you have a apartment or room in a house for the children to sleep and eat whether its a temp place or not just have a place come back after the court date to pack up your life in NC Assert yourself that you want to be an active mother you will stay in CA that you want a shared visitation custody plan with the father caring for the children State that the mediator based her recommendations based on information of you being in NC that you ARE indeed in CA to stay can the judge please award the shared plan Have papers submitted to the court house enough days meaning very soon in advance of court date outlining a couple of reasonable visitation plans that include dad not trying to oust him Do not bad mouth or complain about one single person or your circumstances I know I may be blowing hot air as you have not made your commitment to your children clear I do know I have been to court a lot and I have found it usually works to a greater or lesser degree to be proactive Show up offer reasonable plans offer solutions Show your commitment show your good will This is only my opinion as to what I think may help resolve your visitation with your children in the court room It is not a moral judgement or philosophical point of view it is based on IF YOU WANT TO PLAY AN ACTIVE ROLE IN YOUR CHILDRENS LIFE then that is simply what I would do to mop things up Otherwise you are looking at the dad now becoming the primary parent and it may be harder and harder to pull yourself in with joint everything later on Find a Family Law Attorney AM Zephyr Senior Member Join Date Mar Location Funkytowwwwwn Posts And if at all possible get an attorney Find a Family Law Attorney AM Ohiogal Senior Member Join Date Dec Location Ohio Posts Pretty much if you ask any NCP who actually wants to be a parent if they would be happy seeing their children EVERY day I am betting the majority would say YES Regardless of whether they were babysitting for the other parent or not Parents should remember things Love your kids more than you hate your ex or soon to be ex when you have children the relationship with the other parent is until death your children determine what type of nursing home you end up in Nothing stated by me should be taken as giving you legal advice or forming an attorney client relationship Licensed to practice law in Ohio and a Guardian Ad Litem for children Also CFT Highest Rank approved and verified by the moderators Find a Family Law Attorney PM RoseBlossom Junior Member Join Date Oct Posts okay as to ppl actually HELPING by giving advice thankyou but as to ppl being just plain nasty and twisting my words for their own purposes well anyways I did NOT write that I complained to the judge I was just stating my opinion on here I love my kids I AM a parent and I was just venting steam because it seemed to me that the way the visitation was to basically be a babysitter for my ex and then he gets nights and bedtime while I take care of them during the day while he's at work I just didn't get how that situation actually would work out for the kids benefit since they would be at two different houses with two different routines during each day And to the scratches I didn't call CPS because not every person is knowledgeable they have to start somewhere I am not on a TV show knowing exactly what avenues to go down I lived learned and made mistakes I was very concerned but I trusted their dad because this hadn't happened before then when I left to NC when my son received the bruises and didn't do anything because I was trying to get everything ready to pack and was very preoccupied I should have taken pictures and called CPS well now I know what to do As to going back to CA I have nothing there financially or in the way of housing I would go back be on welfare foodstamps etc and be a burden on the social system which is already crumbling there I understand how visiting and staying in NC looks but I wasn't planning on staying here hit happens and now I am living with my grandmother and going to school to get into the R N program If I go to Cali then I am looking for about a year wait list and over here there is no wait list thank God I love my kids dearly but I cannot give them what they deserve if I go to California where there are crap jobs and horrendous prices on everything GASP I know alot of you will say I am not a good parent or whatever because I dare to stay in NC but they had a way better life out here I have a court date on the th and I wanted to know what would look better for me without having to be on FS and welfare Find a Family Law Attorney AM Ohiogal Senior Member Join Date Dec Location Ohio Posts Quote as to ppl actually HELPING by giving advice thankyou but as to ppl being just plain nasty and twisting my words for their own purposes Nobody was twisting your words for their own purposes nor being just plain nasty Quote well anyways I did NOT write that I complained to the judge I was just stating my opinion on here Actually what you wrote was Quote He file ex parte hearing and judge barely let me speak then she said I had said I had family members to help me in CA when i had specifically said I had NO one to help me and orders for kids to be returned forthwith to CA and visitation is I have kids during week until ex gets off work and I have weekends essentially making me exes babysitter This was unacceptable and I told the mediator over the phone It was unacceptable what the judge ordered and you complained to the mediator about it Quote I love my kids I AM a parent and I was just venting steam because it seemed to me that the way the visitation was to basically be a babysitter for my ex and then he gets nights and bedtime while I take care of them during the day while he's at work It is called parenting Parents do NOT babysit their children They PARENT them You don't like the hours Well then the job is not for you Daddy can do it full time Quote I just didn't get how that situation actually would work out for the kids benefit since they would be at two different houses with two different routines during each day The children would have adapted IF the parents were being mature Mommy was not going to be mature however because she was going to whine to the mediator oh you discussed your issues which most likely meant you complained about the fact that the judge ordered this and you didn't want to babysit Newsflash when a divorce happens NEITHER PARENT gets full time with the children Quote And to the scratches I didn't call CPS because not every person is knowledgeable they have to start somewhere I am not on a TV show knowing exactly what avenues to go down I lived learned and made mistakes And your mistakes caused dad to get full custody There are consequences to mistakes Quote I was very concerned but I trusted their dad because this hadn't happened before then when I left to NC when my son received the bruises and didn't do anything because I was trying to get everything ready to pack and was very preoccupied I should have taken pictures and called CPS well now I know what to do And you don't KNOW how the child received the bruises You don't You weren't there And the bruises were not that important They are now because you could have used them to stick it to dad Which shows your pettiness and bitterness Quote As to going back to CA I have nothing there financially or in the way of housing I would go back be on welfare foodstamps etc and be a burden on the social system which is already crumbling there Oh well It is called a JOB Get one Work your butt off Quote I understand how visiting and staying in NC looks but I wasn't planning on staying here You packed up to go there though Quote hit happens and now I am living with my grandmother and going to school to get into the R N program Go to school The children stay in California however Quote If I go to Cali then I am looking for about a year wait list and over here there is no wait list thank God Then go to school Quote I love my kids dearly but I cannot give them what they deserve if I go to California where there are crap jobs and horrendous prices on everything Then do what is best for them leave them in California AND get an education Quote GASP I know alot of you will say I am not a good parent or whatever because I dare to stay in NC but they had a way better life out here Nope YOU have a better life in NC The children's FATHER is in California You can get your education and they can be with their father Quote I have a court date on the th and I wanted to know what would look better for me without having to be on FS and welfare Do what you want The children will be remaining in CA however Parents should remember things Love your kids more than you hate your ex or soon to be ex when you have children the relationship with the other parent is until death your children determine what type of nursing home you end up in Nothing stated by me should be taken as giving you legal advice or forming an attorney client relationship Licensed to practice law in Ohio and a Guardian Ad Litem for children Also CFT Highest Rank approved and verified by the moderators Find a Family Law Attorney PM RoseBlossom Junior Member Join Date Oct Posts isnt it funny Quote Originally Posted by Ohiogal Nobody was twisting your words for their own purposes nor being just plain nasty Actually what you wrote was It was unacceptable what the judge ordered and you complained to the mediator about it It is called parenting Parents do NOT babysit their children They PARENT them You don't like the hours Well then the job is not for you Daddy can do it full time The children would have adapted IF the parents were being mature Mommy was not going to be mature however because she was going to whine to the mediator oh you discussed your issues which most likely meant you complained about the fact that the judge ordered this and you didn't want to babysit Newsflash when a divorce happens NEITHER PARENT gets full time with the children And your mistakes caused dad to get full custody There are consequences to mistakes And you don't KNOW how the child received the bruises You don't You weren't there And the bruises were not that important They are now because you could have used them to stick it to dad Which shows your pettiness and bitterness Oh well It is called a JOB Get one Work your butt off You packed up to go there though Go to school The children stay in California however Then go to school Then do what is best for them leave them in California AND get an education Nope YOU have a better life in NC The children's FATHER is in California You can get your education and they can be with their father Do what you want The children will be remaining in CA however its funny to me how someone comes on this website looking for advice for hope anything positive and receives nothing but the catty and negativity of unhappy people looking to put other people down Just because we cannot see each other doesn't mean we are not communicating therefore it would do some people good to at least be somewhat polite That said There is a great economy out there isn't there We have the most wonderful system in the world right now with everybody employed and there are so many great opportunities right now for women who CHOSE to have their children with a person who they thought would provide for them so long as they were a stay at home mother and darling 'do what your told' wife Anyways haha I know what a 'JOB' is lady but alas with my experience and education I may go work at the local McDonalds if there are any spots left with so many ppl putting in applications and unemployment rate through the roof I had my children with me in NC and before in Cali and when their 'father' knew that he was going to get hit with child support omg he decided he wanted to be in their life again He lied to me repeatedly he would leave the kids with me when it was his visitation essentially he decided he wanted to have fun with the extra tax money the kids left him with their being dependents on his tax return Got tires with new rims decked out his car etc Meanwhile I am the one who was the main caretaker I am the one potty training them making sure they get their teeth brushed every day which he didnt teaching them their abcs s working with my year old son on his speech problem teaching lol his DAD how to work with him on his sons speech problem or at least what I've seen works well since I'm not a professional Making the doctors appointments etc what a PARENT does Yes it was frustrating living the single parent role mostly the main parent role but it was what I did because they are my kids and I love them I do not babysit my kids I had them with me even when I went to school as soon as I got home I had them taking them to movies the park everywhere I went they went I just didnt get how the fracked up visitation schedule the judge ordered was right in the least And lol like you said ohiolady 'you werent there' i didn't whine to the mediator about the scheduling I was trying to be as civil as possible and it wasnt until their dad started to talk SO much crap about our marriage which I repeatedly tried to say arent we supposed to be talking about the kids that I decided to lay some of his hit on the table Like how his bro smokes weed when hes with the kids like how his mother his present caretaker of the kids left the kids soaking wet through their diapers and was so negligible in raising her won kids that theyre all fracked up with her two daughters by the age of pregnant and with illegal men something years old lol and the mediator has the audacity to say that his family is a vital connection when half of them are illegals using the welfare system and working with fake socials Haha But the one person who had their own rooms for the kids who was working for a better life so that THEY the kids could have a better life instead of always being in want or being on fs is the one whos shot down and put down because she wants to get an education after giving her youth to her kids and to her abusive husband oh yeah was trying to be nice on here about him but thought i should mention he was extremely emotionally mentally and occasionally physically abusive So yes remind me the one who chose the 'easy' life with out my kids by my side because a fracken court ordered them to california a hitty place for the poor that they will stay in California while their mom pines for them dreams about them everynight and cries for them everyday and wont have a G D leg to stand on if she returns to California Thank you very much Now anyone have something positive or helpful to say Find a Family Law Attorney PM Isis Senior Member Join Date Nov Posts feel better Find a Family Law Attorney PM cyjeff Senior Member Join Date Sep Posts Sure It was really sunny today As to your case I agree with the above We have enough youth We need a fountain of smart Find a Family Law Attorney PM RoseBlossom Junior Member Join Date Oct Posts Quote Originally Posted by cyjeff Sure It was really sunny today thank you it was wasnt it now could you enlighten me about what you agreed with as im sure since I decided to try to stop negativity spoken to me as if i was a st grader getting reprimanded by your fellow senior member than the rest have to jump in like a pack of sharks was what you agreed with or was it to something i said about the details of my case Find a Family Law Attorney PM Proserpina Senior Member Join Date Mar Location Weigh a pie Posts Quote its funny to me how someone comes on this website looking for advice for hope anything positive and receives nothing but the catty and negativity of unhappy people looking to put other people down You miss the entire point of this forum Quote Like how his bro smokes weed when hes with the kids Relevance Quote like how his mother his present caretaker of the kids left the kids soaking wet through their diaper What did you do about it Quote and was so negligible in raising her won kids that theyre all fracked up with her two daughters by the age of pregnant and with illegal men something years old Relevance Quote lol and the mediator has the audacity to say that his family is a vital connection when half of them are illegals using the welfare system and working with fake socials Haha Relevance would love to see the proof of this one too actually Quote oh yeah was trying to be nice on here about him but thought i should mention he was extremely emotionally mentally and occasionally physically abusive So when he was physically abusive you reported it and had him charged yes Quote Now anyone have something positive or helpful to say Sure Most of the previous responses have been helpful You just aren't seeing it Quote Have enough courage to trust love one more time And always one more time Maya Angelou This is not a whinery and we do not serve cheese Quote Someone who respects you will never hit you and someone who hits you will never respect you Anon Find a Family Law Attorney laquo Previous Thread Next Thread raquo Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread members and guests Thread Tools Show Printable Version Email this Page Display Modes Rate This Thread Linear Mode Switch to Hybrid Mode Switch to Threaded Mode Rate This Thread Excellent Good Average Bad 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